When Someone Dies

Steps to Take When Someone Has Died

Take Your Time

If your loved one’s death was somewhat expected, it can still come as a shock. Even when you’ve had time to prepare, the reality of loss can feel overwhelming.

You don’t need to do anything immediately. There is space to slow things down and allow yourself, and those around you, to process what’s happened.

Let things unfold gently.

There will be time to make decisions.

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If the Death Occurs in a Hospital or Rest Home

If your loved one dies in a hospital or rest home, the staff will support you by managing the necessary medical documentation and formalities.

When you feel ready, you’ll need to contact the funeral provider of your choice. They will arrange to transfer your loved one into their care and begin the process of making further arrangements.

If a Loved One Has Died at Home

Contact the Doctor

Call your loved one’s usual doctor or palliative care team to confirm and certify the death, they will need to know if your loved one is to be buried or cremated, additional paperwork is required for cremation. This is a necessary legal step before any further arrangements can be made.

Contact a Funeral Director

Reach out to the funeral home of your choice when you feel ready. They will gently guide you through the next step, starting with arranging the transfer of your loved one into their care

Notify Family and Support Services

Let close family, friends, and any palliative or home care teams involved know about the death. These people may be able to offer emotional and practical support during this time.

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If the Death Was Sudden, Unexpected or Accidental

In the case of a sudden, accidental, or unexplained death, the Police must be contacted. The death may be referred to the coroner for investigation.

In these situations, a trusted local funeral home is contracted by the Police to transfer the deceased into care on behalf of the coroner. Wairarapa Funeral Services are responsible for Northern Wairarapa region.

Please Note: You are not obligated to use the funeral provider who performed the initial transfer of the deceased. You are free to choose the funeral director who best meets your family’s needs.

Pregnancy, Baby and Infant loss

If your baby was born at 20 weeks gestation or later, weighed 400 grams or more, or showed any signs of life after birth (such as breathing), the law requires that they be cremated or buried in a cemetery.

Babies born before 20 weeks gestation can be buried in a place that feels right for you — whether in a cemetery or a special spot at home, such as your garden. You may also choose to arrange a cremation through a local funeral director; however, it’s important to be aware that the ashes from very early gestations can be minimal.

Sands New Zealand is a voluntary network of parent-run, non-profit groups offering understanding and support for those dealing with pregnancy, baby and infant loss.

https://www.sands.org.nz

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